How are you supposed to know you might have found your forever person? And does she check off those boxes? Here are 10 signs that she’s the “the one” (AKA how to know if you need to put a ring on it).
1. You feel supported by her — in every way.
She offers you a safe space to rest your head at night. She listens to you when you vent about what’s bothering you. She’s down to try that thing you like in the bedroom for the sake of your pleasure. And when there’s something going on, you know that you can turn to her for support.
She makes sure that you’re taken care of in every possible way. And she does a good job because you feel wholly supported by her.
2. You feel amazing in her company.
When you’re together, you’re on top of the world. Her company makes you feel happy, safe, comfortable, and loved. You’re also able to be completely yourself around her without worrying about being judged or shamed.
You both enjoy spending time together, whether you’re on the couch doing nothing at all or going to the bar for drinks with friends. Whatever you do, you love doing it with her. And you feel like this more often than not.
3. She’s a great communicator and encourages you to be, too.
Communication is key in building successful relationships. Without opening up to each other, there’s a slim chance you and your partner will last.
But you don’t have to worry about that with her. She’s an open, honest, and great communicator so you never have to question what’s going on or how she feels. She doesn’t give you the silent treatment. Instead, she lets you know when things are bothering her as well as what she likes most about you.
She encourages you to open up and communicate with her as well. And she creates an environment where you feel safe enough to be vulnerable and share whatever’s on your mind. You’re able to share your deepest hopes, dreams, needs, and wants with each other without fear of judgment or a fight. And if the two of you ever need a hand when it comes to talking, she won't be shy about getting extra help from professionals like those at Talkspace Couples Therapy.
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4. She meets your needs.
It can be hard to find someone who meets one or two of your needs. But she possesses all or most of the things you require in a long-term partner.
We all have different needs. But whatever yours are, she checks off those boxes — this includes emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually, and otherwise.
5. She truly cares about you.
You never have to question whether or not her heart, time, or energy is fully invested in you and your relationship. You know for a fact that she genuinely cares about you and your well-being because she shows it on a regular basis. And you feel it — and it feels good.
6. She inspires you to be a better you.
Simply having her presence in your life makes you want to be a better person. She motivates you to improve, meet your goals, build new skills, and show up in the world as a stronger version of yourself. You find that you’re a much better you for being with her, and you’re willing to do what it takes to keep upgrading yourself and your relationship.
7. She gets along well with your family and friends.
When your friends and family don’t like your partner, that’s usually a big red flag. They might see something (or many things) that you don’t because you’re too invested in the relationship.
So it’s a great sign if your friends and family love your partner. That means she’ll fit right into your family and get along well with your closest pals. This will make holidays, group gatherings, and regular hangouts go much smoother and way more enjoyable than if you were with someone who your loved ones dreaded being around.
8. You share the same values (where it matters most).
You both want kids — or don’t. You agree that marriage is a dream goal someday. You love to travel and have the same vacation styles. Family is important to you two.
No matter what your values are, you’re on the same page. You have similar views on the world and are compatible in the most important ways. That’s the type of person you want to share your life with.
9. You can see her being a great wife and/or parent.
Marriage and co-parenting don’t scare you to death. In fact, the thought of your partner becoming your wife excites you (even if there’s still a little bit of fear in the mix). You see her as a compatible life partner and someone who you want in your world for years to come.
If you don’t want to have kids, that’s totally fine. But for the people who want children someday, you also envision this woman being an incredible mother. And it warms your heart to think that maybe she’ll be the parent to your kids someday.
10. You find yourself thinking she’s the one.
When you know, you know. Sometimes it takes a little while, but something about being with your person just feels right. It feels comfortable and aligned. And you can’t picture your life without them.
So if you’re asking yourself this question, that’s a good sign. And if you smile when you think about putting a ring on it, then chances are that she might actually be the one for you.
Maybe you’re not in a relationship just yet and you’re still browsing the top online dating services for potential matches. You could also be in the early dating stages with someone you’re really into. No matter where you are in your dating journey, finding “the one” is possible, so don’t lose hope. Your special someone is out there waiting to meet their forever person, too.
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