Is Virtual Dating the Future? If So, Here's How You Can Do It Right!

Morgan Mandriota
Is Virtual Dating the Future? If So, Here's How You Can Do It Right!
If you’re single and looking to mingle during this time of social distancing, lockdowns and general economic uncertainty, we have good news for you! The dating scene might look a lot different than it did before we locked down in quarantine, but thanks to virtual dating, the present and future doesn’t seem so grim.

In fact, recent events may actually be inspiring the onset of a remote dating revolution because of how easy it is to do, how much time it saves compared to IRL dates, and how many safety and health benefits it offers (which is super important right now).

Wondering how to get started? Welcome to your online-only dating guide, with all the tips you need to help you navigate the new normal of the dating world when using the most popular dating apps and sites

Step 1: Prepare Your Dating Profile 

Creating an effective dating profile is the most important step to attract compatible partners without leading any of them on in the process. Prioritize honesty and open communication with your dates, just as you would if you were dating them in person. To accomplish this, you’ll want to openly communicate your intentions from the very beginning. 

Keep in mind though that it’s important to do this in a way that avoids scaring away any potential partners who may not be 100% sold on virtual dating. A simple “let’s keep things virtual (until further notice)” at the end of your bio should do the trick, especially since it’s open-ended and could be discussed upon matching. 

Although an honest yet attractive bio is crucial, the photos you pick don’t matter too much so feel free to share whichever pictures of yourself you like the best! 

Step 2:  Get to Know the Best Platforms for Video Dating 

There are two main types of apps that you’ll need to start virtually dating. The first type is a dating app, and the second is a video chat or messaging app. Let’s explore both of them below. 

1. Dating Apps 

As you likely already know, using dating apps is an amazing way to introduce yourself to folks you’d be unlikely to meet anywhere else. This is where you’ll connect with new people (AKA potential partners). Zoosk, Tinder, Hinge, Match, and Bumble are five of the most popular online dating apps, but your options are endless depending on the type of person you want to date. 

Whichever dating site or app you choose to sign up for, use it as your way to connect with matches... then take your successful conversations to the next step by using a video app. 

2. Video Chat Apps 

This one is pretty self-explanatory. Video chat apps enable you to video call and message with anyone, from anywhere, at any time. FaceTime, Skype, and Zoom are three of the leading applications that let you virtually hang out with people around the world – however, social media and dating apps (like Tinder and Instagram) have recently added video chatting features to ensure connecting with others is still a thing amidst this pandemic, and for when people can’t meet matches in-person for whatever reason. 

Do you have access to both of these platforms? Congrats! You’re ready to start your virtual dating journey. 

Step 3: Make Sure You Have Interesting Conversation Starters 

Now you’ll just need to strike up a solid conversation with your new matches. You have a couple of options here – mainly depending on what type of relationship you’re looking for.

If you want something serious, a kind and considerate opener is probably the best way to go. You can go the nice opening line route which caters to how the other person is doing. For example, you can ask:

  • Have you ever been in a virtual relationship before?
  • How has dating been for you since the pandemic started? 

If you want something casual, go with a fun and flirty conversation starter, maybe even with a flirty emoji included, that’s more direct, like: 

  • So when can I wine and dine you (on FaceTime)?
  • What’s your Snapchat?
  • Have you ever used a long-distance sex toy before?

As always, use your own discretion to send whatever message seems appropriate and feels right.

Step 4: Surprise Your Match With Impressive Virtual Date Ideas 

What type of dates can you have with someone who lives far away? Surprisingly, the options are endless, because you can basically do anything as long as you can both do the activity in your own spaces while sharing the experience on video. Here are four fun date ideas that you can do with anyone from anywhere:

  • Cook the same meal together. Yet apart from your own homes and kitchens
  • Happy Hour. 5:00 pm video call with a cocktail or beer in hand
  • Watch a show or movie. Stream on the same service at the same time
  • Go for a walk together. From different locations while video chatting

Step 5: Time to Find a Match 

Before you begin, there are two key things that you will need to keep in mind to ensure your short- or long-term success. 

1. Put in the Effort

Virtual dating eliminates the face-to-face factor, which can seem complicated or just plain old weird sometimes. Despite how different it may feel, make sure that you’re still putting in an equal amount of effort as you would if you were dating these people in person. After all, it’s still a real relationship!

2. Keep an Open Mind

Because online dating is so different from IRL dating, you will want to keep an open mind throughout the entire process. Things aren’t going to be how you’re used to them being a few months ago before things have changed. So go with the flow. A great way to do this is to limit your expectations so you can enjoy the process wherever it leads you (and to whomever it leads you to). 

And that’s all you need to virtually date! Best of luck navigating your journey in our new normal.

Morgan Mandriota
Morgan Mandriota is a freelance sex and wellness writer with bylines at Betches,, and BuzzFeed. Her insight has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, Tinder, The New York Times, and more. When Morgan isn't writing about orgasms, dating struggles, or CBD, she loves traveling, eating tacos, and training in Brazilian jiu-jitsu.