Just the thought of holiday gatherings is enough to make you want to roll yourself up in a padded sleeping bag with a bucket of ice cream and bury yourself in the backyard.
If this is what your holiday seasons have deteriorated into, then it’s time for a change. Run a brush through that tangled mat on top of your head, wipe away the leftover Chunky Monkey from your cheek, and check out these tips for how to find someone to be with, so you don’t have to spend the next holiday alone.
Finding Love Tip #1: Attend Pre-Holiday Parties and Events
This time of the year, there are lots of opportunities to meet people. Get out there and catch someone's eye. Check out your local community bulletin or circulars to see what parties or events are being held around you.
If you want to go big, head over to some of the major parties going on all over the country. Major players include New York’s very own New Year’s Eve Singles Party, Young Involved Philadelphia, Miracle on 7th St. Christmas bar in Washington DC, and San Francisco's Charmaine rooftop bar to name a few.
Finding Love Tip #2: Reach out to Some Old Friends
Tired of being set up with the same people over and over again? Expand your options by reaching out to other people. Send an old friend a friendly text saying hello. See what they’re up to and if they want to go grab a drink. Even if they’re not for you, maybe they know someone who is. Reminding them that you are still in the dating circles will make them think about possible matches they know.
Finding Love Tip #3: Head out of Town
Don't stop with your local friends, though. Expand your options even further by heading straight out of town. If you're living away from home, head back there. If you know a friend who lives a few states away, ask if you can come visit. Even better, just hop on a plane and head somewhere exotic. Travel is ripe with opportunities for love and connections.
Finding Love Tip #4: Dating Sites
This is one of the best ways to find love today. From Match.com to Elite Singles and Plenty of Fish in the Sea, there are roughly 40 million singles with profiles on top dating sites and apps waiting to connect with you. Approximately 30% of singles see dating apps as a viable and successful method for finding dates, so give it a try. Your true love might be a click away.
Finding Love Tip #5: Friend Finder Apps
If you’re not looking for a steady date but just want some company to spend time with around the holidays, there’s a whole slew of friend-finding apps. Bumble, Friender, and Hey! are a few of the top names, but even more traditional dating apps are great for finding companionship. So, give one a try.
Finding Love Tip #6: Couchsurfing
Couchsurfing is one of the biggest social networking services around today. If you’re looking for a place to crash for the night (or two or three..), Couchsurfing will pair you up with a convenient cubbyhole for you to lodge in. Hosts aren’t allowed to charge for this service; it’s a goodwill site just to help people out. And if you’re looking for someone to hang out with for the holidays, Couchsurfing is a great place to start.
Finding Love Tip #7: Jump on Social Media
What if you don’t want to meet someone new? Maybe you don’t have the energy for it, or maybe you already know someone you’ve got your heart set on. If you’d prefer to just date and hang out with people in your current social circle, that’s totally fine. Reach out to friends on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media outlets to get things rolling. Invite them over for a holiday party you’re hosting, ask for suggestions on where to go for a fun holiday bash (and then invite them to come along), or even just be straight up and post “Peeps, I wanna hang out!” as your status, and see who responds.
Why the Holidays are Prime Time for Finding Love
In case you’re still disheartened, know that the time of year is on your side. In fact, research has shown that people are more likely to find love during the holiday season than throughout the rest of the year.
1. Singles are out more
You’ve got sheer numbers on your side. With more time off and more going on, there are more people getting out and about. The more singles there are around, the more chances you have to make a connection or meet someone special.
2. Cold weather is cuddle time
When the rain is falling, the snow tumbling, and the wind blowing, there’s one thing everyone wants to do: cuddle. With this natural instinct being triggered, you can believe that singles all over will be looking for someone to partner up with and share this cozy experience with.
3. There are plenty of events happening
Social events equal opportunities to meet new people and make more of a connection with the people you already know. With so much interaction, there's bound to be some sparks set off. From family get-togethers to office parties, mixers, and holiday events, there's plenty of opportunities to find love.
4. Holidays emphasize togetherness
While this is usually a trigger for most singles to run and hide, that emphasis can be used for the positive. When your focus is on togetherness, you will be more proactive, open, and receptive to finding someone to be with, and so will the other singles around you. Take advantage of the season that primes us for pairing up.
Besides being stuck at home, bored with all that free time on your hands, and bombarded by love propaganda from the media, singles are ripe for dating opportunities.
Here are a few more quick tips to help you find someone fast:
- Mail your gifts. The post office is another place to meet someone unexpectedly.
- Volunteer. Not only will you be doing something good for the needy, you might find someone else with a heart of gold to fall in love with.
- Sign up for an exercise class. We all gain a little pudge over the holidays. Combat this weight-gain with a fun exercise class and increase your chances of meeting someone new at the same time.
- Say yes! Even if you’re used to turning down invites, accept them during this time of year. More parties = more opportunities.
- Grab a coffee. Coffee shops are full of singles hoping to meet someone cute, so why shouldn’t they meet you?
Spend the Holidays With Someone You Love
The holiday season is ready and waiting for you to find that someone special. Maximize this love-obsessed time of year to make new connections and find someone special to share the holiday season with.